I had just left a handsome paying job that I did not enjoy. The exit/separation had dented my self-esteem and confidence, and I was worried that my age would limit my chances of securing a new job at a level and compensation package similar to what I was enjoying before.
The goals that I set out to achieve was to rebuild my confidence and self esteem.
After regular coaching over a period of about three months, I no longer dwell on the dissatisfaction and negative experience in my last employment.
Today, I am taking steps to create a life, engaging myself in doing what I enjoy……I am feeling lighter and happier.
Catarina helped me to look at the situation from a different perspective, to let go of the negative feelings. She helped me shift my thoughts to look at what is going well, increased my focus on the positive changes I could do to my life and future possibilities that could lead me to a more balanced life.
She also help me realise that my unhappiness and dissatisfaction was partly caused by the lack of balance in my life. That leaving a job that I did not like was an opportunity, as it freed up mental space for e to uncover the causes of dissatisfaction, take control of the situation and regain balance in my life.
She also helped me ‘peel the onion’ to discover what is at the core, what motivates me in a job: fulfilment, autonomy and growth.
She helped me get rid the negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts of myself, to focus on my strengths that differentiate me from the others, especially the younger workforce, rebuilt my confidence and overcome the fear of rejection that was limiting myself to opportunity.
- I am engaging myself in self development and activities that I enjoy… which I did not have the mental space to do when I was working in an energy draining job that I did not like.
- I view losing the job that I did not like, a blessing in disguise, ½ glass full rather than empty.
- I have become more conscious on what to focus on and look for in my search for new job. Salary has become a lower priority to me.
- I have let go of my ego and am more ‘bold’ in initiating contact with headhunters to be placed on their radar. I am also more optimistic on the probability of securing new employment in the near future.
Catarina, showed interest in listening to me, acknowledged my feelings without judgment but with empathy. She gave me the space to think, sort out and verbalize my thoughts which I call ‘self sanity check’, find my solution or ideas that will work for me and decide on my action.
That made me feel I was in control of my own situation. There were times, she made suggestions and these suggestions led me to expand on the options, uncovering more exciting ideas and possibilities.
I felt safe speaking with her.
In one session, she helped assess my actions, thoughts and behaviours in relation to my situation and that made me realise how I had sabotaged myself at work and how I could do things differently for positive results.
There was another session, she applied the visualization technique, led me to recall a time which I enjoyed much peace and happiness and seeing myself in that moment…….that experience was amazing as I felt much relaxed immediately after.
Sharing my objectives with Catarina allowed her to encourage me to turn thoughts into action. That also helped to keep me on track to follow up / act on what I said I would do, increased my accountability to act on my plan and making these objectives work for me.