Last night as we were strolling around the beach village we are staying at, we went into the Havaianas shop, as Sophie*, a friend’s 11 year old daughter, was eager to go and try on some espadrilles she said she had seen earlier and had her eye on.
As she tried on these pretty pink espadrilles which tied up like ballet shoes, she was beaming. She rushed to the mirror, twirled around and I could just tell she loved them.
So I asked her if she wanted them.
And she started to say “yes, but…”
I was amazed at what came pouring out:
“They are lovely, but…
I will only wear them for another 2 weeks on holiday.
I will outgrow them soon.
I won’t be able to wear them afterwards.
And as I attempted to reason with her, she went on:
“Yes but by the time I get back it will be autumn in Paris, so I won’t be able to wear them.
It’s a waste of money.
It’s a pity, but…”
And even though her father offered to buy them, she said “no, there are better things to spend your money on.”
I asked if she would rather a pair of flip flops, but no, she stuck to the same story.
We eventually walked out of the shop.
In the meantime her father had bought himself a pair of flip flops.
And although she said she was fine, I could see she was disappointed.
Not even 15 minutes later, she had a wobble over something completely different and out it all came. How her father bought something for himself, how he never had time to go shopping with her, how she never got anything she liked…
A typical outburst. We’ve all ‘been there, done that.’
What I want to say with this is that although it is something we all can relate to, and it first seemed quite sweet and sensible of her to be saying she wouldn’t get them because they would only last her for the holiday, the thing is she really wanted them.
They would have been a nice memory of her holiday.
She would have worn them to death.
She would have got her money’s worth because of that.
Even if it was only for 2 weeks.
They weren’t that expensive, and we had spent more than that on the meal we had just had. And a meal doesn’t last 2 weeks.
What Sophie did was let a money block prevent her from buying what she wanted.
It was maybe something she was taught, she had probably been taught not to ‘throw away money’, ‘not to waste money’. And I am not criticising that in the slightest.
What I want is to show that actually Sophie really wanted them but her money block made her decide otherwise. Because that was the ‘right thing’.
And then she got mad. She was already upset and then probably her father buying something for himself, just pushed her buttons.
It must have clashed with her value of ‘fairness’. Even though her father had told her to get them, her money block ‘won’.
And then she was upset.
It held her back.
And she ended up having a wobble over something else which triggered it.
And the thing is we all do this, because we have all had years of being told this, that and the other, and gone through different situations that mould our behaviour with money and which impacts our daily decisions.
Knowing what pushes are buttons is a very important step.
Being aware of our triggers is key.
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* name changed