When I did the Energy EditingTM training, we were told that at the end of each session we should muscle test and tell the client how many sessions would be needed to completely clear the issue they had come to us with.
I decided to offer 30 free sessions as I practised.
And at the end of each one, I skipped that step.
I didn’t do the muscle testing to see how many sessions were needed.
And therefore I didn’t tell the person.
Because I didn’t want them to think I was ‘pushing’ for additional sessions.
So I kept each and every one of those 30 people in the dark.
It came from my own insecurities about not wanting to seem sales-y.
It was about me. Or rather what I didn’t want them to think of me.
And then, a couple of weeks ago when I was talking to a friend who had done one of these sessions, I happened to mention it. And she said: “What? I would have loved to know how many sessions I needed to clear that topic!”
My mouth dropped open (well, not literally).
I thought of all the missed opportunities of not giving people what could have been valuable information to them.
I had taken that away from them by not providing the information.
I had not served them.
I had not helped them.
My intention of not wanting to seem as I was pushing for a sale was coming from a place of my own discomfort, and bottom line I had mucked up.
And it had been a blind spot for me.
You see the fact that I gave them that information didn’t mean I was twisting their arm to book another session with me.
I wouldn’t be forcing them.
It would always be their choice.
No one can make you buy something you don’t want.
I must have been harassed by those annoying sales people in a prior life or something.
I must have a block of some sort to work on around this issue.
So I went and muscle tested on myself.
And what came up?
“Fear that I am doubted”.
Trust is one of my core values, so I don’t want people to doubt me.
Makes total sense now.
But I let it interfere and get in the way.
So the next time you start thinking about what other people may think, be it your family, friends, clients or whomever, remember this:
What other people think of you is none of your business.
Because you are flawsome.
That means you are awesome, regardless of your flaws.