With over 100 blogs in draft mode, still unpublished and several notebooks filled with ideas that haven’t seen the light of day, I have to put my hand up and fess up that perfectionism is one of my downfalls.
I used to think being somewhat a perfectionist was a good thing.
But it really isn’t.
Perfectionism does not make us feel perfect.
It makes us feel inadequate.
It makes us feel bad about ourselves.
Which will lower our self-esteem.
And impact our self-confidence.
Perfectionism holds us back from taking action.
It keeps us stuck.
And if we dig beneath the surface, we will probably find a fear of getting it wrong, a fear of failure.
But ‘staying stuck to avoid failure’ is actually going to cause more discomfort and agony than if we actually did it and failed (which won’t necessarily happen).
By staying stuck, we are sending our subconscious a message that we aren’t able to handle failure.
And I am sure you can see how damaging that is to your self-esteem.
The thing is, life isn’t black or white: it isn’t a case of success or failure.
There is a lot of grey, and I truly believe that it’s in this grey area that we learn the most and grow.
We get better at things as we go along.
We don’t start out doing things perfectly. We learn along the way. We learn what works better for us, and how we need to tweak something to suit us.
We are human beings – we don’t come programmed with a mistake-free modus operandi.
Life does not come with a guarantee of a smooth path without any bumps along the way.
We are going to stumble.
We might even fall.
That’s just part of the process.
And let’s face it: if we did get it absolutely spot on the first time around, we would probably get rather bored as there would be no challenge.
And what fun would that be?